On Alphasoars
Checkpoint today and also subsequent other post on our Checkpoint section, I will
be discussing salient issues that tends to becloud the mind of youths. The series
are going to cover some predominant issues in our lives as youths ranging from
sexual affairs, drugs, friendship and marriage.
These series
of discussions are largely going to be based on a book I read some three years
ago and I just picked it up to go through it again and it just clicked into my
head that I should share stuffs with you guys. The book is titled Straight Talk
To Youth (Breakin’ Out) and authored by a renowned Australian speaker, Bill
Newman. The book is readily available at most prominent libraries or Christian bookshops
around. So I urge you to grab a copy and find out all you need to know as a
young person.
I know most
of us Alphasoars at a point in time in our lives have asked this question on
certain occasions over and over again, Haven’t Times Changed? Today’s
discussion will be based on premarital sex, so grab a cushion, a chilled ice
cream and ‘chillax’ and lets discuss.
Premarital sexual
relationship is that relationship which exists between two people of opposite
gender, who have not publicly taken the marriage vows which is associated with
sexual affairs. We see this relationship around us at every corner of the
street. Now I know the question that might be going through your head, ‘why
discussing this?’, ‘Any special thing in it?’, ‘Anything wrong with it?’. In the
past decades, it will be an abominable act to see two young people cuddling on
the street. Not even only cuddling, but I have witnessed what is been
done to ladies on trousers. They are been regarded as those who are not part of
the society and most time stuffs are been thrown at them while kids take the
pleasure to sing some annoying lyrics at their backs. Haven’t times changed? And
strictly on my opinion I want to say ‘No’.
Firstly, the
rate of divorce in our society today is alarming and premarital sex has been
proven as a major cause of this. How does it happen? After couples who have
engaged in the act have finally got married, there will be this lack of trust
between both of them. Supposition and suspicion sets in due to the fact that
they have engaged in the act at one time or the other and he will think, ‘she’s
done it with somebody else, she’ll do it again’ and she will think, ‘he’s done
it with somebody else, he’ll do it again’. With this, either couple will
develop a wild kind of jealousy towards the other which will result in both of
them keeping ‘unending vigils’ for each other and when one gets tired of the
whole issue, he/she will think of none other thing else than filling for a
divorce.
Another reason
why I want to be against it, is that it comes about with a hunting
psychological trauma. There will be this problem with flashbacks, ‘hunting
memories’.
The holy
write as well condemns it. Alphasoars, sex is worth waiting for then. Firstly,
the fact that you know that when you walk down the aisle, your marriage will
begin pure sexually. Both virgins. Again, it’s worth waiting for because when
you guys come together as married couples, there will be that full trust for
each other.
Furthermore,
those hunting memories will not be there and that calmness of mind as against
any STD that might set in to cripple your family will not be there.
Sebastian Temple
writes in a little comparison between love and lust, lets here him,
“Love is silence
– lust is roar
Love is
sacrifice – lust always wants more
Love is
giving – lust only takes
Love is a
meeting of hearts – lust breaks”
With this
write, I have known that premarital sex is found on that sandy foundation of
lust. Haven’t times changed? No. have you stopped being a boy you were when
your mother gave birth to you. Readdress your minds.
Happy soaring!!!
Hiya Alphasoar.. I love the name ooo... Its distinct.. So permit to kindly say that this is my first time here, and i love it already :). However i do not totally agree with you.. You see Oga boss, Sex is a choice, same as celibacy is.. It would be wrong for us to totally condemn sex before marriage cause in all sincerity it is a kinda excercise, and therapy.. Also, we all have different levels of Self control. Okay lemme ask this kind question. Which do you advice.. Masturbation (1 man sex) or Actual Sex? think about it, every man has a choice to do that which he/she pleases, but in all what ever rocks your boat, kindly stick to it. Nice post Oga boss, it was intelligently put. :) Cheers
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Delete@Sex is a choice, same as celibacy is.. It would be wrong for us to totally condemn sex before marriage cause in all sincerity it is a kinda excercise, and therapy.. Also, we all have different levels of Self control". yeah quite understanding but you are the one to control that emotion and not the other way round. Exercise, therapy . . . agreed and stand on it for married men.
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