Amaka's Love Story

If fate could be lenient with her and her wish is granted, it would be for her to get married before June next year when she turns 38. After all, she has got all that will make a man want to marry her - A nice body, a great career and a good home management skill as a mother to be.

"I am not going to bother myself about anything involving relationships and marriage again, am just tired" She told Jane coldly after her 37th birthday last week.

"Don't say that Amaka", Jane cautions her. 

"Segun is not the only man out there; there are a lot of men who would gladly take you to the altar at the slightest opportunity. Why kill yourself about one Segun of blessed memory" Jane advised. "Oh Jane please, Segun is the seventh man in my life aside Odike. When will that man that will take me to the altar ever show up, when will he? Is it after I’ve dated the whole men in the country? No tell me! She queried as she burst into uncontrollable tears.

She has met Segun at a popular restaurant some nine month ago while attending a birthday party of a former classmate. He was having some drinks with friends when he spotted her from a distance and couldn't stop the chemistry he developed immediately from reacting. 

He got Amaka's number on a platter of gold since she was already looking forward to a man in her life after her relationship with Ijeobi ended three months ago. Their first dinner date was at the Elegushi beach at Lekki. It was a romantic fun fair. Their relationship kick started after then and it was all rosy. They always do things together and as a result he had to invite her to come over and stay with him at his place but she said no, preferring a weekly weekend visits.

How to Cure a Deficit Relationship

All hail Alphasoars,
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I describe a deficit relationship as one that has lost the touch of passion or completeness that has previously been visible. It is a relationship that has lost the act of 100% reciprocity. One in which one or both parties feel shortchanged and wish to break up or discontinue with the relationship.

From the foregoing a deficit relationship could possibly be termed one which is far from been called a normal relationship. And there are many things that can lead to abnormalities in a relationship. I will list a few below.

1. Seeing less of what you expect. John bought a beef sausage roll. He took it home having known that in a beef sausage roll, he will find beef enclosed in baked flour. He unwraps what he bought for a quick bite and on taking the first bite, he watered it down with a soft drink. On having the second bite, he realised that he has been short changed by the company that made the suasage roll in that he could no longer find beef enclosed in the baked flour.
By careful examination he found out that the company only added beef to both ends of the sausage roll and nothing was inside.

Hehe, I've succeeded in making someone salivate already, lols.

Like the sausage roll, some individuals apply what we could call 'packaging' in their outward appearance thereby deceiving the next person. And when they have gone through a short while together the other begins to notice that what was presented to her/him was false and not really the person behind the presentation, he tends to withdraw from the relationship.

Alphasoars Checkpoint: Sooner or Later? Till Then?

As one gets out of the teenage years going into the twenties, he/she tends to focus mainly on two things, making money and making a family.

So here we are! Today on our Checkpoint section, completing our series I will be talking about marriage, finding your SO. You are wondering at the post heading. Let me explain ( I think I owe that for proper understanding). By sooner or later, I mean does it keep bubbling in your heart each time you sleep or rise up. Do you think of getting into it Now or Later, maybe six, eight or ten years ahead. The follow up, Till Then? am asking you, does it not bother you at the moment, maybe because of your commitments somewhere or because you are not up to the age. So, you will want to fix yourself in one of the categories and let’s soar together. I think this post is getting singlelish in nature (emphasis on the singlelish) but in any case all the Alphasoars in the house that have married have one thing or the other to contribute to the discussion. Your advice or suggestion using the comment box will helps those that are still single.

Now let’s soar . . .